Invisible Liz
thoughts from a hidden immigrant
Thursday, February 8, 2018
The days are long...
Tuesday, January 23, 2018
Labels
Nowadays there are labels for every personality type, preference, orientation, and anything else you can think of. People keep claiming to hate labels, but they keep coming up with more. I personally hate generalizations--I don’t like to box people into one label or category and assume that’s all there is to them. But I tend to find labels helpful, especially in understanding myself.
For example, I am an introvert. I had never even heard of such a thing until a few years ago, but once I read that first article about introverts, I immediately understood myself better. I have so many things to say, but I’ve always hated talking to people. When I was a kid, we just called that being shy. It was something to overcome. And I failed miserably at it. “Just talk to them!” My mom would say, “It’s not hard.” But it terrified me. Even though I could write for hours and email people novels, I just couldn’t make my mouth work. Turns out, a lot of people are like that. While I have learned to talk to people, I have never fully overcome the fear. I find excuses not to hang out with people because I can’t do small talk. Facebook is my dream come true--I can keep in touch with people without ever seeing them face-to-face.
Third Culture Kid is another label that helped me understand myself. I’m an American, but I was raised in Singapore. I lived in Singapore from the time I was 4 until I was 19 and left for college. I don’t fully fit in either culture so I’m what is referred to as a third culture kid, and I will be one no matter how old I get.
Possibly the most applicable label for me right now is that of Hidden Immigrant. When I lived in Singapore, I was obviously an immigrant. I was a blond-haired, blue-eyed kid who stuck out like a sore thumb. People would cross the street to touch my hair. I was asked more than once if someone could pull out some of my hair for a scavenger hunt. I was not expected to fit in. But in America, I look like everyone else. For the most part, I talk like everyone else. Everyone else expects me to think like them, to be fully American. But I’m not. I’ll never fully fit in even if I never leave America again. I am a hidden immigrant, always on the outside even while being on the inside.
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Nowadays there are labels for every personality type, preference, orientation, and anything else you can think of. People keep claiming to h...